April Squillante
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I engaged in this course for many reasons, but I am surprised to find such joy in a re-connection with myself. It has been some years since we have had any real quality time and I forget how much I missed visiting with my parts in a conscious way. This process too is so much more friendly. When I studied psychology and worked in the field early in my career, there was always such a focus on the analysis and diagnostics. It was a time, if you are old enough, where there was not the same focus on self care and self love. In fact, spending so much time in this journey would have been, and for me did, feel self absorbed. It was, and still is, hard to grant myself permission to require inward time for myself.
I reflect greatly on how this impacts my relationships. The tendency to allow the needs of others to come in front of my own I can feel sometimes drains me of my grounded, solid, strength. On the other hand, being in a relationship can provide an easy substitute for the security needed to feel grounded, solid, and strong. While common knowledge that one must care for themselves in order to be successful in other areas of their lives, it should be more embraced.
This leads me to a lot of thought I have had around using parts work in working with couples or any relationship. Isn’t that what dating is….getting to know the parts of a person. I doubt we will get to dynamics of partswork in this course but interesting to me all the same.
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How are you living in alignment with Vision now, and What beliefs, behaviors, and attitudes need to shift or be developed to become more aligned to Vision?
What I recognize is how my vision has changed over the years and how it has stayed consistent. I believe that taking this class and joining an organization that has a mission in line with that vision through an upcoming hopeful job change, will put me on the right path. I recognize I have traded elements of my vision for ease and convenience. I have sacrificed deep satisfaction for comfort and security. I think I need some more answers from those in my environment as to if all can be achieved in this place.
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After a few days of practicing my sit spot, I realized that the experiences I was having was filling me up in ways that exceeded my expectations. I don’t just mean from a deep feeling of conenctedness or satifcation but even on a more tangible level; engaing with snakes, flocks of birds, and morning fog….all felt like nature reaffirming for me taht this is where I belonged.
Partswork, I find, can be liberating in that it allows to not have to put yourself into one neat package but to honor and respect the diversity that each part presents to the world. I could see elabroating further on the identification to include when these parts appear and pros and cons of each or benefits and challenges. Identifying interjections has been quite a challenge, throughout life. I find this can be on eof th emost difficult aspects as it then forces one to grieve by creating an alternate intention.
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Happy Fall! I am joining this course ever so late with only one opportunity to be on with you all Tuesday the 12th. My name is April and I live in the Hudson Valley, NY. Like most of you I am sensitive to the profound impact and energy nature plays on my mental, physical, and spiritual self. As a coach and Executive HR person, it is my goal to help incorporate this knowledge and work into my repertoire.
Now what did I miss? Lol!
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You sum up the doer and seeker very well! Beautifully said, (“She is the essence of softness and stillness and beauty of deep, quiet calm. She will always prefer the scent and feel of fresh rose petals or the way my neighborās goatās eyes close in a moment of bliss when I scratch under his chin, to most anything else in lifeā¦LOLā¦So, the message was quiet (not loud) and clear”). My Doer is also tired, but when my seeker finds something that sparks joy my Doer kicks in, always on stand by. I think about these two also in the form of masculine and feminine energy.
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It’s inspiring for you to share your anxiety around food and body image Kelly. What I especially like about your comment is how the process took you to an action, a solution. Creating affirmations that stick, that would be a good topic to cover as well.
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I have noticed that as I try on different parts of myself in my lifestyle choices, I will often avoid people in my life, members of my vision council, who reflect my soul back to me. I also have new people in my life who denounce aspects of me, often verbally, that my vision council and soul would say are key to who I am. It’s like a light on the post-it being dimmed.
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Jackie,
I am so excite for you and your journey. I truly believe that when you live your passion, your sould irected life, good things will come! Trust that everything has brought you here to this moment. -
Being the last to comment, I should have opted not to read all of your amazing writings for while we all have our unique expression, you all have made the analyses so thoughtful and beautiful.
Dwayne Dwyer talked about living āin spiritā as the definition of being inspired. This meant that we can be āin spiritā or inspired as a manner of being, not a time bound or specific focus, but a person aware and acting in concert with their spirit, their soul. What I question is the obvious connection being made here between āNature Connectedā and āSoul Directedā. Your soul is your natural self and when one is connected to nature, they are aware of their natural self, their soul. The more we are connected with nature, our natural selves, our soul, the louder itās voice and the more inclined we are to listen.
Many people started this session with acknowledging that we have NOT been listening, either personally or as a society. How do we take this journey from where we are to being Nature Connected to living Soul Directed life. How do we amplify the message, tune out the distractions and find the courage to act in the service of what we know nurtures all? A Self Directed life is one where we are making conscious decisions that supports our greater lifeās purpose and leaves behind the best of ourselves for the betterment of all.
