Dear Sul,

I am particularly drawn to the way you have highlighted the tendency to “relapse” without maintenance. Something shifted in me when I read this. A little lightbulb turned on.

I really began to see how the long term model can make change sustainable. Suddenly I can see the role of ritual and neuroplasticity in a long term coaching model.

I…

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Long term Coaching Practice Client:

Even though this unit concluded in the summer, I recently had an opportunity in my professional work to offer a long term, coaching model to a potential client.

This client initially came to me looking for something I did not offer. I had to draw a boundary and clarify what I do in my work.Boundaries are a tough…

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I am feeling this one deeply this year. It is not just a coincidence that anxiety and depression are on the rise. The sadness and confusion we feel is held in a greater context. I don’t think we were taught about our deep connection to nature as our ancestors were. Modern life can give us the illusion that we are separate from nature but our souls…

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Awareness is a key concept here. Awareness in nature feels so natural and never needs to be forced when attuned to the environment. Coaching presence and deep listening follows naturally. When I listen to a client in nature, it is like I am tuning into creation itself.

I usually take clients to a canyon near my office. (How lucky am I?!) When we…

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I am still in deep process, a year later with the concept of the threshold. Words are inadequate to describe the inner knowing that arises when I am tuned in to the environment with a client.

The other during a winter coaching session, a rare and unusual animal appeared in the canyon. A white weasel- whose coloring has shifted in synchronicity…

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I don’t know why but I feel emotional reading this. I love coaching but I have avoided selling. The package I sell most often is a month-long package, but I think it is because I have trouble visualizing past that and valuing my long term offer. I find myself stagnating at my current offer.

I think in order to sell the experience, the romance,…

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ooh! I like that statement “20 percent is for us”. I have noticed that too. anything we hear in a clients story has wisdom for us as well- but it doesn’t need to detract from their experience. Conversely, I think this enhances our ability to engage with them.

The self-severance process is always at play for me and one of the reasons I love…

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I like the way you used the coaching competencies to manage your own emotional pain while relating to this client. It seems you were able to turn your emotional understanding into a strength by using those competencies with skill.

It sounds like as an artist and a coach you had the right blend of what he needed to return to the space.

For this assignment, I worked with an existing long-term client. I started with this client before I began with EBI, but I used what I had learned to re-create the container.

We took a look at his progress throughout the year in his business, but this time I took it to a deeper level. I asked him to look at the ways that working the changes in his…

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Ally, I completely understand the struggle with parts. There are so many of mine I wanted to deny, only to learn that they prolonged my struggle. I really appreciate the way you describe how integrating your inner child part is showing up in your healthy expression of adulthood. This is eye-opening to me and suggests I have more work to do,

Jen, your post is changing something for me. I am understanding grief and death in a way I never could before. It just doesn’t make sense in the logical brain- it is much deeper than that.

I appreciate the way you illuminated the grief for a part/introject that no longer served you but was deeply ingrained.

Losing a way of being is like a death…

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In this last immersion I understood the invitation to really up-my game as a coach. Shortly after the immersion, I left for Costa Rica, where I was invited to co-facilitate a ceremony in beautiful natural setting.

I took all of the skills with me to the jungle. The jungle took on a new meaning for me because through EBI, I learned to view myself…

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As I reflect on the readings about the brain and synthesize this with our learnings about partswork and nature connected coaching. One of the things I realize is the nature is actually a space where the right brain- expansive, interconnected, playful, creative and innocent can harmonize with the left brain, planning, analytical, meaning making.

Eve…

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I agree Ally. It was a rare treat to read Jen’s post. Her willingness to share the depths of her grief is liberating.

I learned from your session Jen. It occurred to me something like this. Only when we have the courage to disintegrate, can we begin to transform and create ourselves anew.

In this session with partswork, we were able to access the oracle of nature to relay and mirror our parts back to us. I got the opportunity to work out my own parts before working with my practice client. It was monumental to see how easily I could find my own parts expressed in nature.

Through this experience, I was able to conceptualize working…

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Wow! What a cool concept you bring up here. I love the idea of educating women on brain function as a feminist tool of liberation. This is mind blowing. I hope you work with it more in your coaching world- it could be revolutionary. Understanding the brain and the function of the RAS could have the potential to liberate women from the confines of…

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There are two clients that I chose to focus on when practicing the skills learned in this intensive.

One client was highly analytical and I intuitively knew he would benefit from an explanation of the brain. His goal was to become more present and connected to his life as a father and husband. We talked about the PFE and the practice of…

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This intensive on grief was fascinating for me. Having grown up with my father, a surgeon, we often minimized the experience of grief and loss. It was liberating to open this concept up in my life and allow it the space it deserved. Having grown up this way I came to fear and avoid grief.

Having gone through the Gestalt portion of EBI, I came to…

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Jen,

your insights on the readings always help me connect to them better. The layers of emotions involved in grief and their various locations in the brain and subsequently the body, is a source of fascination for me.

Multiple layers of emotions both positive and negative appear when we unpack grief. It is so valuable to look more deeply at this…

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Ally, your openness throughout the program was an important part for me. I noticed how you were always willing to say exactly what was true for you and be honest about how you were feeling.

Knowing that we share our struggles as a collective makes grief more bearable.

I appreciate the way you named the experience of grief in losing parts of your…

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I feel so connected to what you have expressed here. The mere mention of grief also brings up a discomfort that feels unbearable. My mind starts to reach for distractions. The physical sensations are palpable.

I’m glad I am not the only one who put this off. Reading Jen’s reference to Jill Bolte Taylors “My Stroke of Insight” provides some context…

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